Is life busy? Is there too much to get done and not enough time?
Two common questions that plague many of us, and the Christmas Season makes it all the more hectic. Isn’t this supposed to be the time to celebrate, be thankful, and spend quality time with those that we love? What happened?!
When we allow life’s busy-ness to become urgent, we can often drown out the important. Think of how you feel when someone takes the time to get to know you, or offers some encouraging words, or listens to you when you are struggling, or hugs you when you are hurting. Those are the important things, and they require time. One of the paradigms of life is that we often times must give a little to gain a lot. Long term gain can often require some short term sacrifice. Think of how many times we have been critical of others, pointed out their mistakes, given them direction, offered our opinion, and told them they should be more like us. We justify this behavior because it seems more expedient than taking the time to understand. We know that there are more important things in life, but we let the urgent drown out the potential of exploring.
The second verse of the Prayer of St. Francis: ….O Divine Master, grant that I might not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying [of ourselves] that we are born again.
Words that make common sense, but the urgent can prevent them from being common practice.
Here is another relevant piece of data—a hospital patient perceives those that visit, and sit in their room to have spent more than twice the actual time of those that stand. So this Christmas Season, embrace the important, and don’t let the urgent cause you to miss the joy that is there for the taking.