November is National Adoption Month, and I thought it might be appropriate to recognize the challenges faced by adoptive parents, the high incidence of unwanted pregnancies, and the blessings that are possible for adopted children.
My wife Kathy and I were blessed with our adopted son when he was just four days old, and that was 32 years ago. After six years of trying, several infertility procedures, significant expense, and being told that a pregnancy would not be likely, we began the adoption process. It was far more difficult than anticipated, and we faced several hurdles that spanned almost two years. Looking back, we would not trade that experience for anything different; and we were subsequently blessed with two additional children over the next six years.
Think of all the CHOICES that were made in this adoption process: our choice to have a family, a mother’s choice to have her child, her choice to give the child up for adoption, our choice to adopt, and our input into the choice of the child we were blessed with. Choices have impact, and many times we cannot understand what that impact will look like down the road. However, I also believe that if we take a longer term perspective of the potential impact of the choices we make every day, we can achieve outcomes more in line with our dreams and aspirations.
Life is not a race, it is a journey; and as Stephen Covey has said: “...begin with the end in mind”. As you make choices ask yourself where this might take me, or what the result could be, and I believe you will make better choices as a result.
For all the adoptive parents out there, here is a poem you may enjoy:
“We didn’t give you the gift of life, But in our hearts we know. The love we feel is deep and real, As if it had been so. For us to have each other Is like a dream come true! No, we didn’t give you The gift of life, Life gave us the gift of you.” Unknown